When I realized we were parenting upside down

I started out this parenting journey equipped with armloads of books. Good books. Books about developing strong connections with children and building positive attachments. Books about how to set up a gentle, warm,  home environment. Books that each held some gem that I could take into my life with my kids. Books full of ideas I am grateful for.

But no matter how much I absorbed though books, or conversations with friends, or online forums or articles on attachment parenting and positive discipline, I still felt something was missing in our home. I loved the advice to build strong connections and to always give children empathy for their emotions.

I knew that the positive interactions should outweigh the negative, but I felt I was often drowning in all the things  we had to discuss and work through and debate and negotiate, the nagging and the power struggles- especially with my one little fireball who gives me lots of fodder for this kind of engagement.

But a couple months ago I came across an idea that was new to me from a source that was also new (I sort of though I’d read it all by now!)

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The holiday’s just flew by in a wild, festive, snowy-white blur and we are just done now, packing away the ornaments, finding homes for new toys, and catching our breath.

After all the social-ness of the Christmas season I was happy- for the second year in a row- to have an introvert’s dream New Year’s Eve- quiet and at home, reflecting on what has been and what may be, warming my toes by the fire and staring off into the flames.

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Although it feels lately like our homeschool is always in a state of flux, there is one thing that is a steady constant in every single day around here. Books. Everything else might change, but there will always be books. Thank goodness. So I thought I would chat once a month or so about what we are reading and enjoying over here.

Homeschool Morning Read-Aloud

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to the Brave-hearted Mamas who Keep on Keepin' on

I can’t lie to you all- it’s been a little rocky over here.

We are just pulling ourselves out of a rough patch that involved a fair amount of chaos, worry and tears. I am not going to go into all the details because it’s not fully my story to tell, but it affected me a whole heck of a lot, and our family and our homeschool, and my sleep and the state of our house and how little I’ve been able to make time for anything beyond the basics.

But you don’t need to know the details to know how this goes, right? You make some plans, and go on your merry way, and then something derails you- some big external thing or some big emotional thing, but certainly some big unexpected thing,

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Getting our feet wet with

Over the past six weeks I have been doing some schooling along with my children, taking Lori Pickert’s Project Based Homeschooling master class. This class has been such a great experience- helping me to see our homeschool days in a new light, and to continue this constant process of  reshaping our homeschool style to best fit my ever-growing and changing little learners.

There have been so many realizations as I’ve worked through the readings and discussions, but the first one came within days of beginning the first assignment to take notes on my kid’s interests, activities, conversations etc through the day. I can’t say I’ve been doing a terrific job at remembering to do this, but the bits I have managed, have really helped me see the forest for the trees.

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